tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303579814137518928.post1913941815931163026..comments2020-04-25T19:53:52.234-05:00Comments on A Baby From the Beginning: Self-righteousness and SuperiorityJennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01572324550893904380noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303579814137518928.post-50059725757309357172010-08-11T19:18:39.168-05:002010-08-11T19:18:39.168-05:00When I was in my third trimester with my last baby...When I was in my third trimester with my last baby, it seemed EVERYONE around me was having inductions (at 37-39 weeks). It was kinda hard to bite my tongue, but I wanted very much to be respectful of other people's pregnancies and experiences. It got even harder when my best friend was fighting tooth and nail to keep her baby inside for every additional day she could get (ended up giving birth via c-section at 25 weeks, the baby was 15 ounces . . . her baby is doing AMAZINGLY now, still in NICU but nearly 6 lbs. now). When I'd hear people talk about wanting to just be done and how early could they talk their doctor's into inductions, I wanted to grab 'em by the shoulders and shake them and tell them they should be thankful for every day their little one spends inside until the baby & Mom's bodies decide the baby is done. When I went 6 days overdue, people thought I was crazy, and I was hounded daily why I wasn't getting an induction. It was hurtful and obnoxious to hear the comments. Which is why I tried to keep my own mouth shut about their experiences -- nobody wants to hear they're doing something 'wrong', especially about something like birth. But, at the same time, without people sharing their experiences, I would've had a third epidural birth this time around, rather than the AMAZING natural birth I experienced. So, I guess it's a fine line. That I wish I knew how to walk! :-)Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03781058037409966491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303579814137518928.post-67470217645774974382010-07-15T17:12:58.405-05:002010-07-15T17:12:58.405-05:00I don't think I could have written this post a...I don't think I could have written this post any better. It has so many of the things that I think about ALL of the time. It is a fine line that we walk, but I think you are right, we know more about birth then most Dr. Thank you for this post.Meleah Ekstrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10083435481258299309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303579814137518928.post-47506721340845972582010-05-25T20:52:21.367-05:002010-05-25T20:52:21.367-05:00Hi, I don't know you and stumbled across your ...Hi, I don't know you and stumbled across your blog...hope it's ok I comment. I had a natural child birth with my first at a hospital and plan to do the same with our next. I had a hard time sometimes with people that use excessive intervention, but here is something i came up with and perhaps it will help you. I loved my birth because I did it natural, but my sister loved hers because she had a great epidural that she didn't feel a thing. Birth is such a spiritual experience that I decided if someone needs intervention to think and remember birth as a beautiful thing then it's ok (for them). (although in my opinion inductions are ridiculous earlier than 41 weeks, great blog by the way)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18205613923921084662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303579814137518928.post-30416290444678512172010-04-23T18:09:22.605-05:002010-04-23T18:09:22.605-05:00I completely understand how you feel. People tend...I completely understand how you feel. People tend to get really defensive about their births, and it doesn't do anyone good to make people feel bad. I often don't say anything in situations like the one you described and then later I complain to my husband about how frustrated listening to it made me. He always asks why I didn't say anything--with as strongly as he knows I feel about NCB, why don't I promote it more? It's because it's hard to find a balance between sharing information and offending people.<br /><br />I fully respect the rights of women to make birth decisions different from my own, but I also have a hard time respecting any choice I see as uninformed. The problem is, most people who are uninformed don't realize it. If they did they'd get informed. They think they are informed (I certainly used to) and find any insinuation that they're not, insulting. <br /><br />That is not to say I don't think there aren't fully women who make fully informed birth choices different from what I would choose, think I would choose, or see as ideal.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621569580858604541noreply@blogger.com